How to Give Yourself an Orgasm During Sex

Having an orgasm is easy… isn’t it? But what if I told you that only 25% of women experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse alone. The orgasm gap between males and females is a hot topic of conversation at the moment, with many people discussing they ways in which we can ensure that sex is mutually satisfying for both men and women.

Luckily, at Crimson Princess we have some great ideas!

What is an orgasm?

An orgasm is a climax of sexual pleasure that you experience during masturbation or sexual intercourse. Both men and women experience orgasms. However, some people suffer from premature ejaculation which means that orgasm too quickly, and sexual dysfunction means that some people may not experience an orgasm at all. It isn’t all bad news though; some people can also experience multiple orgasms which means that, like a freight train, the orgasms just keep coming!

The different types of orgasm

There are many different types of orgasm for women. However, for ease of reference I am going to concentrate on three. The Clitoral Orgasm, the G Spot orgasm and much the coveted, Blended Orgasm.

  • The clitoris contains over 8,000 nerve endings and is the pleasurable nub located between the lips of your vagina. If you stroke or rub the clitoris, it can bring you to a climax very quickly. This is called a clitoral orgasm. Using a bullet vibrator is a quick and easy way to experience clitoral stimulation because they offer direct and powerful sensations.
  • The G Spot orgasm is slightly more complicated as the G Spot is located inside the vagina and you may need to look for it. To find your G Spot, lie on your back and add a generous helping of lube. With your palms facing towards the ceiling, insert your finger into the vagina and feel for a rippled and spongy area on the vaginal wall. This is easier if you are already turned on because the g spot will protrude. If you think you’ve found it, stroke it gently and enjoy the delicious sensations. Those who prefer G Spot stimulation might want to try out a G Spot vibrator as these offer a little more pizazz to your solo play.
  • The blended orgasm is a combination of both a clitoral and G spot orgasm so you experience a really intense climax. This type of orgasm can be achieved by stimulating the clitoris manually during penetrative sex, or using a sex toy. Using a vibrating cock ring or a bullet vibrator is a great way to achieve this incredible dual orgasm.

Enjoy better sex by using foreplay

Some people prefer to get straight down to act of carnal pleasure. However, taking some time to enjoy your partners body can be the difference between an incredible orgasm, or a nice time. During sexual intercourse, foreplay is very important because it helps your body to prepare for sex and paves the way for incredible pleasure.

Other ways to increase your chance of orgasm during sex

Using lots of lubricant – Using lubricant adds a deliciously slippery sensation during foreplay and sex, which helps to reduce friction and increase pleasure. If using sex aids such as cock rings, vibrators or other sex toys, lubricant can increase comfort by ensuring that the items doesn’t drag against your delicate skin. However, it is important to ensure that any lubricants that you use are compatible with condoms and sex toys. If in doubt, always check the manufacturer’s instructions.

Experiment with edging to achieve a better orgasm. If you haven’t heard of edging, this is a technique which can be used by both men and women to prolong and intensify orgasm. Edging requires that you bring yourself to the brink of orgasm before reducing the intensity of stimulation so you don’t climax, but still remain aroused. This technique works very well for those struggle with premature ejaculation, but also creates a very explosive climax at the end. For men seeking to practice this technique, we highly recommend a product from the Fleshlight range.

Find new and exciting ways to have sex

For many of us, we have sex down to a fine art in that we know exactly what our partners next move will be, and how to achieve an orgasm in the fastest time, before rolling over and going to sleep. In other words, you may be in a sexual rut. Think back to those days when you were unable to keep your hands off each other and try to recreate that sense of adventure. For example, spicing things up with sex toys or using lingerie to add an extra element of excitement.

For some, a sense of danger is a huge turn on so why not experiment with remote control sex toys? Slipping a discreet panty pleaser into your partner’s knickers, before a date and watching as they try to contain their pleasure is a huge turn on. If you have a three-way fantasy, bring this fantasy to life with a suction dildo. By sticking the dildo to any surface, you can create a threesome experience without any added complications. 

Move away from the vagina during sex

During sex, we are completely bogged down with penis in vagina sex and forget all about the other parts of the body which deliver sexual pleasure. For example, did you know what a man can reach orgasm without touching his penis at all? By taking the time to experiment with other areas of the body, this can help us to refocus our attention on the erogenous zones that can also bring us to climax. For men, this could involve stimulation of the prostate gland using a prostate massager, which creates an all-consuming, full body orgasm. For women, this can involve clitoral stimulation or nipple play. This type of experimentation is perfect for those who want to mix things up a little bit in the bedroom.

Practice makes perfect

Sex is not an exact science and everyone is different. Therefore, it takes time to get to know someone’s body well enough to bring them to orgasm. My advice would be to relax, have fun and be prepared to make mistakes. The most important thing is to listen to your partner and communicate to ensure that you are meeting the needs of each other, if things don’t work out as planned, try something else and make sure that have the best time doing it. Sex is fun!

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